The fine line between online chatting and cheating on your partner

Signs to look for, triggers to watch

DETROIT - There's no denying social media has changed the way we live and communicate -- but is it making cheating on your partner easier? There is a fine line between cheating and chatting.


 "They start off with an innocent hello and how are you, you look great," said Elle Sompres who is a social media user.

Like Elle Sompres there are so many of us who enjoy the compliments from people we have recently reconnected with on facebook.- until the kind words turn into something more. "Then they start if you lived here I would so... and I'm like whoa whoa you're married that's a problem," said Elle.


The fine line between chatting and cheating is the focus of this book by marriage and family therapist, Dr. Sheri Meyers.

"It used to take months or years to start an affair to create an affair to start a relationship now it can be days or weeks," said Meyers.

Dr. Meyers says social media allows those testing the waters to be bolder than if they attempted to be unfaithful with someone face to face.

"People to be aware how dangerous it is and how important it is to commit consciously to faithfulness. If your beloved is acting shady, is keeping secret-gather the evidence. Look at the cell phone; look at the photos that are on the cell phone, check out their Facebook page."


 As for the folks trying to be too friendly, do what Elle does. "I really do take the bull by the horns and let them know that I don't think it's appropriate. I want to draw that boundary for my own self-worth or what I like to call the girl code. You don't want to be that girl who is crossing that line."

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