GROSSE POINTE PARK, Mich. -

As a person of interest in his wife's murder, Bob Bashara has met with police, given statements, DNA, and even handwriting samples.

But Bashara, who has not been charged, says investigators have gone too far with his friends, family, and Rachel Gillett -- the woman he had an extra-marital relationship with for three years.

"The police have been terrible," he said. "They've been terrible in leaking, corrupting. They've corrupted (Rachel), turned her against me. They've turned friends of ours against me ... to think that I could harm my lovely wife ... is unthinkable to me. And everyone that knows us is struggling with this because they know Jane and I had a special relationship."

In an interview with Dateline's Dennis Murphy at the Bashara home in Grosse Pointe Park, Bob Bashara said during the months since Jane's death, his private life has been thrust into the spotlight and it has affected his family, especially his daughter Jessie.

"Well, you know what, she's not happy about, about the other situation," he said. "But she firmly knows I had nothing to do with killing her mother, as does her brother. Jane and her were very close. And she's hurt. She's mad. Not happy with me about the, about the Rachel thing. But you know, again, when this is all said and done and I have the chance to explain to her and my son and others that are close to me what the relationship was like between Jane and I, and why I was even involved in the other situation, you'll say, 'Oh OK, well, I guess I understand now. It's a little clearer.' But I need to get past this first."

Bashara said his children are grieving.

"They terribly miss their mother," he said. "My daughter especially. My daughter is an absolute sweetheart. She misses her mother dearly."

As far as being under the microscope in a city where he was born and raised, Bashara says when this is all said and done, he hopes to stay in Grosse Pointe Park.

"I don't want to leave here," he said. "I love this community. I love this community. I may stay in Grosse Pointe. But when I am acquitted of all this and when this all by me, 'cause I will get by this. I will get by this. That's my hope and prayer. I may still stay in Grosse Pointe. To heck with the, what people think."