Next time you find yourself in an argument, ask yourself: Do you want to be right or do you want to be close?

This question just might change how you work through any issues with a loved one

Michael Franti and Spearhead performs live for fans at the 2014 Byron Bay Bluesfest. (Matt Roberts, 2014 Getty Images)

When Michael Franti -- a musician, filmmaker and activist -- gets into an argument with his wife, they fall back on one phrase: Do you want to be right, or do you want to be close?

“So many arguments are just about proving that my opinion or what I did or what I said was OK. And that what she did or said wasn’t OK,” Franti said. “And once we can move past that and really get back to like, what it is that we’re making each other feel, then that empathy kicks in. And I just go, man, I don’t want to make you feel s-----. I want to make you feel good. That’s why I married you. That’s what I signed up for and that’s what you signed up for. Let’s get back to that place.”

Sometimes the process takes an hour. Sometimes it’s more of an overnight thing, or it will last a few days.

This bit of advice came from a counselor, Franti said. It sounds simple, and perhaps it can be, but it does take some time to learn and put into practice.

It’s not just marriages. As Franti was sharing this advice on a recent episode of “The Best Advice Show,” podcast creator and host Zak Rosen said you could likely apply it to friendships, as well.

Franti and Spearhead have a new album called “Watching The World Go by With You.”

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He’s not so much interested in platitudes and truisms, but instead, looking for the specific, odd, uplifting, effective, real advice from you about how you make it through your days.

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